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The author is taking part in a one year training led by Cynthia Aldinger. It is an activity of the Lifeways Center in Wisconsin.
I went out to dinner last night with the women from my playgroup - my lifeline, really. For years, we have been soul-mates in the journey of parenting. The conversation turned to our children, which it always does. Between us we have 19 children, and each of us has a 6 year old. The question at this moment was, “How are you explaining the President Clinton-Monica Lewinsky affair to your first grader?” I listened carefully as each of my seven friends discussed the conversations they'd had with their children about sex, adultery, and scandal. Most felt that it was too bad that 6 year old kids needed to be introduced to all that adult stuff, but they hear about it on the news, so what's a parent to do? Others felt it was a good opportunity to teach their child values. For me, this was like many other parenting discussions of this type. I had nothing to share, because Kyle, my six year old son, has no idea who Monica Lewinsky is, and perhaps only a very vague notion of President Clinton. He never sees the news. I must admit that for a moment I felt the all-too familiar twinge of self-doubt that I often have when I'm confronted by the fact that my children are very different than most of their peers. In this particular instant, once my common sense took over, I was grateful that Kyle did not have to deal with this adult issue, and scolded myself for thinking, even for a moment, that he might be better off immersed in the current events of the day. Still, questions and doubts remain. They creep up in everyday life more often than I care to admit. Having raised our children in more of a “Waldorf way” during the past five years, my husband and I are increasingly convinced that there is a fundamental truth in this philosophy of early childhood. The more ideas of Rudolf Steiner that I learn of, mull over for awhile, and then implement in our family life, the more I am certain that we are on the right track. So, why is it so difficult for me to explain, and even defend, the path we are choosing to follow in raising our children?